“i know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. they continue to participate in every act, thought, and decision we make. their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. we ﬁnd comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love.” leo buscaglia
welcome hello and welcome to your memory book - a dedictaed place where you can leave a lasting memory of your loved ones. this book has been created for you and we hope that it helps as you remember your loved ones throughout the year. ‘i donate to the memory book every couple of months as it helps me to share my thoughts of how much i miss dad. ‘even a small donation can make the world of difference to another family going through what i’ve been through. carol ryan shares why it has been important to her to have a place to remember her dad and the comfort it has brought. ‘i hope this book brings you and your loved ones comfort as you remember those who are no longer with us.’ carol ryan november 2019 ‘the day my dad was told he had only a few months to live in april 2017 was the day my whole world changed. i felt like i was on a fairground ride i desperately wanted to get off but couldn’t. ‘he put on a brave face, but inside i’m sure he was as terriﬁed as the rest of us. ‘my dad was the kindest, gentlest man you could meet. he was an amazing dad and an even better grandad to his three granddaughters. ‘dad was referred to st wilfrid’s for palliative care and pain relief. he loved the hospice and the kindness and hope they gave him, even in those darkest days near the end.
“those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day, unseen, unheard, but always near, still loved, still missed and very dear.” unknown
how to use your book welcome to your memory book this book is here to remember and pay tribute to your loved ones who have sadly passed away. all tributes are welcome including those without a direct connection to st wilfrid’s. they may have died recently or a long time ago. you may like to make a tribute after losing a loved one, on their birthday or anniversary, christmas or new year. please feel free to make more than one dedication, it really is a place where you can come to remember. to make a tribute is free. however, if you would like to make a donation, your donation really will help other families going through what you may have experienced. st wilfrid’s hospice can then help and support more patients and their families at such a difﬁcult time. thank you from all of us at st wilfrid’s hospice. jenna stringer in memory co-ordinator 01323 434216 email@example.com
“my husband went to painting classes and it worked wonders. he began to socialise again with other people and really looked forward to his tuesday mornings. it made the end of his life more enjoyable.” a memory from a patient’s family
carol donald date of birth: 03/11/1949 date of death: 10/01/2017 memories: we lost carol 9/1//2017 but she is not forgotten she was a loving wife, mum, nanna, she was also my best friend and not a day goes by when i don’t think of her, it has been a very hard time for me and i miss her so much. rest in peace, love from sandy yvonne greenaway date of birth: 18/08/1956 date of death: 17/01/2019 memories: in loving memory of a wonderful mother, wife and nanny x sadly missed , always in our hearts,love from all of us xxx
“perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.” eskimo proverb
ellen godward date of birth: 27/10/1934 date of death: 08/02/2019 memories: to mum, who i think of every day with love and so many memories. i miss seeing you, talking to you, laughing with you and the whole family are missing spending all those special times we had together. you the were the best mum and nan anyone could ever wish for. kind, generous, funny and such a great cook and hostess. love you always mum xxx margaret cosham date of birth: 18/03/1938 date of death: 09/02/2018 memories: sadly missed. in our hearts forever. miss you mum xxx
rev peter john mills date of birth: 05/07/1953 date of death: 25/02/2016 memories: a wonderful dad, husband and grandfather. dad lived his life to the full and spread joy and happiness wherever he went. life is not the same without you in it. we miss you stories, your companionship, righting the wrongs in the world, laughing with you, crying with you, there is a hole that i know can never be ﬁlled and there isn’t a day that goes by that we don’t miss you. i am so lucky that you were a part of my life and shaped who we are.
“the care and empathy shown to my late mother by all staff was outstanding. nothing was too much trouble. she was able to pass with dignity in a peaceful place.” a memory from a patient’s family
tom garnett date of birth: 09/02/1920 date of death: 02/03/2010 memories: dearest mum dad nan & grandad time slips by and life goes on but from our hearts you ‘re never gone we think about you always we talk about you too we have so many memories but we wish we still had you always in our hearts but never never forgotten lest we forget much love ann john & crain karen jeff kate & emma mark michelle alﬁe maisie & freya x x x x x x
“i‘ve told my children that when i die, to release balloons in the sky to celebrate that i graduated. for me, death is a graduation.” elisabeth kübler-ross
kathleen kilby date of birth: date of death: 04/2003 memories: we all miss you so much at christmas time and all throughout the year. the greatest gift we ever had were the days when you were here. we all miss you every day so very much. have a happy christmas in heaven with our other loved ones who are no longer with us. god bless always and keep watching over us as we know you do, love and kisses, peter, karen, tina, john, connor, charlotte and kaitlyn x
“the kindness and support we received from every member of the care at home team meant so much to all of us - i don’t think we could have got through it without them.” a memory from a patient’s family
will suttill date of birth: 29/09/1985 date of death: 16/05/2019 memories: a dedication to my beautiful son will who was taken from us far too soon. he battled his illness with so much courage until the end. he was loved by all who knew him. now pain free, rest in peace my darling. lots of love mumsey x julie stonard date of birth: 30/12/1961 date of death: 03/05/2018 memories: not a day goes by when we don’t think of you. you gave us love, laughter and honesty in our crazy family. we all love you in return and know you’re smiling and sometimes laughing at the mess we make down here! love always paula xxx
dawn weston date of birth: 18/02/1988 date of death: 22/05/2014 memories: dawn you left us too soon, loved, missed and remembered everyday xxx maureen johnson date of birth: 25/10/1925 date of death: 26/05/2018 memories: in memory of my much missed friend, maureen x
james silvester date of birth: 22/06/1922 date of death: 13/05/2009 memories: whenever i remember dad, it’s moments like these: my sister and i posing with him after a lovely dinner on a french holiday. he was always laughing, enjoying life, being a great host... he was such fun and i miss him so much but these memories uplift me and help me to see things on the bright side. julie stonard date of birth: 30/12/1961 date of death: 03/05/2018 memories: we miss you jij
will suttill date of birth: 29/09/1985 date of death: 16/05/2019 memories: my darling son will sadly pass away in may from pancreatic cancer, he was loved by all who knew him.
“end? no, the journey doesn’t end here. death is just another path, one that we all must take. the grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you see it.” j.r.r. tolkien
les tasker date of birth: 03/08/1948 date of death: 22/06/2017 memories: my darling dad, my best friend. i miss you every second of every day and today, 3 august you would have been 70. you were the best dad i could have ever wished for and i miss our banter, you being in the ofﬁce with me and us laughing in the gym so much. i miss our con- stant chatting and laughing and i thank you for making me the per- son i am today. i love you so much and always will. rach xx elizabeth osborn date of birth: 28/11/1944 date of death: 13/06/2008 memories: mum was one in a million, raising two daughters single handedly, giving us every opportunity two little girls could ask for. mum dealt with her illness with such dignity, never getting angry or allowing us to see the pain or anguish she may have been suffering. we miss her every day and we leave this dedication here in her memory, with so much love from her friends and family xxxx
jon prentice date of birth: 29/09/1985 date of death: 16/05/2019 memories: my brother jon was a very caring, loving brother to me. he had a difﬁcult life and it ended with him getting cancer which was terminal. he was very accepting of it and faced his suffering with tremendous courage making the most of his last days. his strong christian faith enabled him to face death with peace. he had four lovely children and seven grandchildren who were very close to him at the end. his son looked after him in an amazing way. the hospice at home team looked after him very well and he died peacefully at st wilfrid’s hospice with family around him. he was a piano teacher and his legacy to me was some pieces of music that he gave to me to play on my keyboard. also all his family received two cds of him playing the piano. we will never forget him. he is in our hearts forever.
“i’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” maya angelou
john phillips date of birth: 11/08/1964 date of death: 30/07/2018 memories: july 30th, 2018 my father-in-law, john phillips, lost his battle to cancer. with it, he left a hole in our family which has still not been repaired. st. wilfrid’s hospice provided support and comfort for john during this difﬁcult time. as such, on may 12th, i participated in the birmingham vélo 100-mile cycling race and raised money for st. wilfrid’s. a small token to show our gratitude. thank you elizabeth ward date of birth: 07/11/1950 date of death: 125/07/2014 memories: missing you, especially today, on mother’s day, and every day. you have always been my everything and always will be, “be free, angel” x x x x x x x
jenny lambert date of birth: 09/01/1956 date of death: 19/07/2018 memories: nanny, we miss you every single day, but each time we think of you we can’t help but smile. your love, wisdom and laughter gave us memories that will last forever. we hope you know just how much we love you and how much we wish you were still here. you’ll always be in our hearts. love always jasmine & ben xxx leslie gibbs date of birth: 31/08/1943 date of death: 06/07/2016 memories: in our thoughts every minute of every day, loved and missed so much by your family. melanie, paul, wendy & gracie xxxxx
eric bloomﬁeld date of birth: 19/05/1928 date of death: 13/07/2016 memories: we miss you, gramps. your strong handshake, your charm and warm smile, your levity and love of cars. you were such a fantastic role model for us and we all miss you hugely. david haggar date of birth: 01/09/1979 date of death: 26/07/2014 memories: you were my best friend and husband and i loved you very much even through your illness. i will always love you and miss you and as each year passes the struggle that your not here gets harder and i cannot do without you, thank you for giving me my family now which we couldn’t have but i will forever be yours in this life and the next xxx
“the love and care was amazing from the doctors to the cleaners. everybody tried to lighten his life some of the staff would sing, we had some dancing, tea parties and lots of laughter. it made a sad time very happy.” a memory from a patient’s family
wendy frampton date of birth: 31/03/1966 date of death: 10/08/2017 memories: on 10th august 2017 my best friend and wife was taken from me, my light went out and left a massive hole in my life that will never be ﬁlled. it is now only our lovely daughter kirsty who gives me a rea- son to carry on, every day is a battle and at times every day i feel it is a battle i am losing, but come the end of the day it feels like another small victory and i am ready to ﬁght another day. ian vine date of birth: 07/04/1947 date of death: 07/08/2015 memories: to my darling husband, ian i feel so lucky to have had you in my life for 38 yrs but so sad that you are no longer here i feel so happy that we shared so many special times but sad that we can share no more but the memories i treasure, you smile i still see your love i still feel & your sense of humour still makes me smile. you were a wonderful husband and dad. all my love forever, paula xx
david lamb date of birth: 03/11/1939 date of death: 31/08/2018 memories: remembering the many good times that we all spent together over the years. rest in peace now dave, your battle is over. with our very fond memories in our hearts forever. john & gilly xx val williams date of birth: 06/11/1943 date of death: 28/08/2016 memories: to my dear mum, miss you more each day but know that you are looking down on us all. love from julie, paul, jack and louise xxxx
“death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” irish headstone
geoff ryan date of birth: 06/01/1943 date of death: 27/09/2017 memories: 2 years today since you slipped peacefully away …i can’t begin to tell you how much i miss you dad…i’m sure you are all around watching over me. sweet dreams daddy xxx pamela latter date of birth: 08/08/1945 date of death: 06/09/2019 memories: in memory of a mother, grandmother and a fun-loving and creative lady.
neil smith date of birth: 27/04/1945 date of death: 30/09/2018 memories: in loving memory of a wonderful father and caring grandfather. greatly missed but so fondly remembered. your passing has left a hole in our life but your love will stay with us forever. we will always miss you. andy, emma, luka & esme xxxxxx geoff ryan date of birth: 06/01/1943 date of death: 27/09/2017 memories: i can’t believe it’s my second father’s day without you. i think about you every hour of every day my brave dad sweet dreams daddy until we meet again all my love carol xxxxx
geoff ryan date of birth: 06/01/1943 date of death: 27/09/2017 memories: miss you more everyday dad , you were so brave till the end ..that little robin in my garden i’m sure is you watching over me .until we meet again ..all my love dad geraldine lyons date of birth: 1953 date of death: 25/09/2006 memories: in memory of my beautiful mum, the most amazing, kind and compassionate, talented lady with a voice of an angel. in my heart everyday, love and miss you more than words can say. love you so much, until we meet again. anna xx
joan baker date of birth: 10/12/1930 date of death: 17/09/2018 memories: forever remembered, forever missed we share in this time of grief but also share in the love and memories of joan with love and remembrance shirley & family xxx geoff ryan date of birth: 06/01/1943 date of death: 27/09/2017 memories: missing you so much dad especially at your favourite time of the year ..now pain free and peaceful. until we meet again dad all my love always xxxxx
geoff ryan date of birth: 06/01/1943 date of death: 27/09/2017 memories: hey dad. not an hour goes by that i don’t think about you and talk about you. your pictures adorn my home. when does this pain get easier dad? i wish i could hug you once more. all my love dad until we meet again carol x laurel rylands date of birth: 11/11/1935 date of death: 13/09/2018 memories: we lived together for twenty ﬁve years and as each year rolled by our respect and love for each other grew stronger. laurel you are and always will be very dear to me and i know that goes for many other people as well. i will always treasure our time together and that knowledge will for ever keep my heart warm and contented. rest in peace my love. my love for ever, tony.
geoff ryan date of birth: 06/01/1943 date of death: 27/09/2017 memories: hey dad, i’m busy planning what to plant down at your ﬁnal resting place. i still miss you more than words can say. until we meet again i love you with all my xxx
“the moments we share are the moments we keep forever.” unknown
margaret garnett date of birth: 09/02/1922 date of death: 19/10/2017 memories: dearest mum dad nan & grandad time slips by and life goes on but from our hearts you ‘re never gone we think about you always we talk about you too we have so many memories but we wish we still had you always in our hearts but never never forgotten lest we forget, much love ann john & crain, karen jeff kate & emma, mark michelle alﬁe maisie & freya x x x x x x anne marie peall date of birth: 22/08/1956 date of death: 24/10/2019 memories: well, how have i not made a note of every word you ever said... time was on our side for a short while, but even if you lived to be over 100 it would never have been enough. we’re doing the best we can mom, but we are so lost without you. we love and miss you... p.s. next time uncle stephen has a medium - give him lottery numbers to give to me love you joanne
priscilla burtenshaw date of birth: 06/07/39 date of death: 27/10/2018 memories: to my wonderful wife, priscilla. love and miss you so much. brin & family xxx marion walls date of birth: 10/03/1950 date of death: 02/10/1999 memories: my lovely mum, so kind, so brave, did so much for everyone else and asked for nothing in return. would be a great granny now and would have loved it. missed so much xx
“my husband went from diagnosis to death in 5 weeks. he deteriorated very rapidly. during this time the nurse line were my best friend. thank you for being there.” a memory from a patient’s wife
dave cosham date of birth: 01/03/1942 date of death: 08/11/2019 memories: miss you every day dad. love simon and claire xx laszlo (les) tamas szalay date of birth: 03/09/1951 date of death: 02/11/2018 memories: to my darling les, my wonderful husband and best friend for 35 years love you and miss you every day jo xxx
shirley ann martyn date of birth: 12/12/1945 date of death: 01/11/2014 memories: my beloved sister shirley.. we miss you so much my darling rip until we meet again xx
“everything i had heard about st wilfrid’s was true and exceeded all expectation. a truly outstanding and wonderful place.” a memory from a patient’s family
mairi baker date of birth: date of death: 04/12/2018 memories: in memory of a beautiful, loving, kind, witty and loyal friend. we cannot believe you have gone dear friend. we will treasure wonderful memories of happy times shared. angela wheeler date of birth: 04/02/1955 date of death: 28/12/2015 memories: in memory of my beautiful darling wife angela who was taken from me on 28 december 2015. i will always love you and never stop thinking about you. always in my heart, alan xxxxxxxxx
charlie sutton date of birth: 08/05/1962 date of death: 26/12/2017 memories: miss you so much, mum. love you forever & always. love from all of us xxxxxx ivy hall date of birth: date of death: 12/2005 memories: for you i promise to wear pink. and to play the piano on christmas day, just one tune, badly. and i will wish you a happy birthday and think of you dancing with grandad again. and i will miss you everyday. all my love always. sarah x
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